How to Increase Libido in Women
When someone’s sex desire or urge begins to decline, it is termed as loss of libido or loss of sex urge or sex instinct. It is one of the common problems among women. Most of the patients hesitate or feel shy to talk about this problem. However, you must be surprised to know that this is not the problem of one or two women, there are many. This problem is more common in the women who are in their 30s and 40s.
There can be many reasons for the loss of sex urge in the women, physical or psychological they may be. However, this problem can also be caused by certain other factors such as illness, side effects from medications, hormonal imbalances of testosterone or estrogen, depression, mental or physical disability or even drug or alcohol abuse. Apart from these, there can be some sexual ordeal like rape, abuse, problems with body features etc. Unlike men, loss of libido is much psychological deal for females.
Following is given a list of causes of loss of sex urge:
- stress and fatigue
- acute or chronic illness
- drug or alcohol use or abuse
- medication use
- lack of desire
- pregnancy and the postpartum period
- surgical changes and gynecologic infections
- hormonal changes
- relationship problems
- fear of intimacy
- previous sexual trauma
- religious beliefs
- proximity of family members
Don’t let your problem overcome you rather find a solution for it to keep your relationship strong.
What You Can Do
You have to start from locating the problem. It is very important as without it you cannot proceed further. Once you are aware of the actual problem, try to do some research and find other people with same problem and their experiences how they treated it.
- In case a medical condition is accountable for decline in sex desire, changing medication plan may help out.
- In case a stress is a cause, try to calm yourself down by having a walk etc.
- Regular exercise is not only good for overall health but it also help to increase sex drive.
Whenever you feel low or down, no matter what are the reason will decline your sex drive.
Causing Relationship Problems
It is always difficult to talk about the matter to your partner. If you don’t feel like talking to him, better make a list of problems that you think are the major causes of your declining sex drive. Don’t hesitate mention every single problem clearly and give it to your partner. Women often feel uncomfortable to talk this problem with doctors, but let me tell you it is even more complex to talk about the problem with your partner.
Make certain that your partner understands what you share with him. Convey the things to him in a way that at no point he feels that the problems are because of him. This is very important part and is a first step towards solving your problems. If your partner misunderstands you, more complications can arise in your relationship.
Tiredness, sickness, busy routines, unhappy and tense relationship are some of the major causes of diminishing sex desires. However, there are women in which interest of sex decline despite of having a well-controlled life.
Testosterone therapy and pheromones are the best possible treatments for such women. It is suggested that low blood levels, i.e. below 10 nanograms per millimeter often result in the decline of sex drive. Testosterone therapy is the therapy that cannot be used without an authorized doctor who knows how to use testosterone. However, pheromones can be used securely. Once the desire is increased, you can quit the use of testosterone. Testosterone can be used in so many different ways. One way is to use a pellet (100mg of testosterone) beneath the skin. The second method is to use an injection of testosterone enanthate of 50mg or 100mg with a gap of three or four weeks for certain period of time. It is important to mention here that though, the use of testosterone pills lower the blood levels of HDL cholesterol but the chances of heart attack also increase in the women who take them.
You Are Not Alone
Every woman develops this thought naturally that she is only the woman with this problem. You will be surprised to know that the numbers are in millions. It is essential to visit your OB/GYN on priority basis who is the best suitable person to diagnose the right problem. Often hormonal imbalance also causes lack of interest in love making. If you feel that there are no physical aspects behind this problem then look at psychological ones. Find out the actual problems and deal each of the problems separately and seriously. Locating and finding the solution is the only way to deal with the psychological factors. If you are unable to solve the problem, seeking help of a marriage counselor or sex therapist is the best option.